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Cultivating Loving-Kindness

Loving-kindness practice, also known as Metta meditation, can increase benevolence in our lives. Metta has also been translated as universal goodwill or loving-friendliness or unconditional positive regard and has been used for thousands of years. Research on this type of mindfulness practice has shown increased happiness, feeling more connected to others, and some have found […]

WRITTEN BY: Patrice Powers-Barker, OSU Extension, Lucas County, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator

REVIEWED BY: Shannon Carter, OSU Extension, Fairfield County, Family and Consumer Sciences, Assistant Professor

REFERENCES:

  • Crawford, J. (n.d.) Mindful parenting for parents and caregivers, Washington State University Extension, https://pubs.extension.wsu.edu/mindful-parenting-for-parents-and-caregivers
  • Fredrickson, B. L., Cohn, M. A., Coffey, K. A., Pek, J., & Finkel, S. M. (2008). Open hearts build lives: Positive emotions, induced through loving-kindness meditation, build consequential personal resources. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95, 1045-1062.
  • Hofmann, S. G., Grossman, P., & Hinton, D. E. (2011). Loving-kindness and compassion meditation: potential for psychological interventions. Clinical psychology review, 31(7), 1126–1132. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2011.07.003 https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3176989/
  • Loving Kindness Meditation, Greater Good in Action, https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/loving_kindness_meditation
  • Loving-Kindness Meditation, University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign, https://extension.illinois.edu/sites/default/files/loving-kindness_meditation.pdf
  • Metta Meditation: A Complete Guide to Loving-Kindness, Lion’s Roar https://www.lionsroar.com/metta-meditation-guide/
  • Neff, K. (2021), Cultivating loving kindness https://self-compassion.org/blog/cultivating-loving-kindness/
  • Williard, C. (2019), A Kindness Practice for Families, mindful, https://www.mindful.org/kindness-practice-families-christopher-willard/
  • Wong G, Sun R, Adler J, Yeung KW, Yu S and Gao J (2022) Loving-kindness meditation (LKM) modulates brain-heart connection: An EEG case study. Front. Hum. Neurosci. 16:891377. doi: 10.3389/fnhum.2022.891377 https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/human-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnhum.2022.891377/full

Making Every Day Sweet

While there might be an expectation of cards, gifts, or candy to be shared by romantic couples on Sweetest Day (third Saturday in October), this tiny bit of history reminds us to make it a celebration of kindness, time, and love. In the early 1920s, Herbert Birch Kingston worked at a candy company in Cleveland, […]

WRITTEN BY: Patrice Powers-Barker, OSU Extension, Lucas County, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator

REVIEWED BY: Caitlin Mathews-Smith, OSU Extension, Guernsey County, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator

PHOTO CREDITS:

  • Pixabay

SOURCES:

  • Davoodvandi, M. Navabi Nejad, S. Farzad, V. (2018). Examining the Effectiveness of Gottman Couple Therapy on Improving Marital Adjustment and Couples' Intimacy. Iranian Journal of Psychiatry. 2018 Apr;13(2):135-141. PMID: 29997659; PMCID: PMC6037577.
  • Dollard, C., (2024). Invest in Your Relationship: The Emotional Bank Account, The Gottman Institute. https://www.gottman.com/blog/invest-relationship-emotional-bank-account/
  • How Sweet It Is: The History of Sweetest Day, Ohio Memory, A Collaborative Program of the Ohio History Connection and the State Library of Ohio https://ohiomemory.ohiohistory.org/archives/5519
  • PAX Tools - Emotional Deposits, PAXIS Institute, https://youtu.be/I80VhmAT2fU
  • PAX Tools - Kudos Notes, PAXIS Institute, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xE2iCC_xyVQ
  • PAX Tools, PAXIS Institute, https://www.paxis.org/community-based-programming/
  • Poulsen, S. (n.d.), Purdue Extension, A Fine Balance: The Magic Ratio to a Healthy Relationship. https://www.extension.purdue.edu/extmedia/cfs/cfs-744-w.pdf
  • Stanley, S., Kline Rhoades, G., Markman, H. (2006). Sliding Versus Deciding: Inertia and the Premarital Cohabitation Effect. Family Relations. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1741-3729.2006.00418.x
  • Sweetest Day, Hallmark, https://corporate.hallmark.com/holidays-occasions/sweetest-day/

November is National Family Caregivers Month

During the month of November, we celebrate those who care day-in-and-day-out, round-the-clock for loved ones. When a loved one has a sudden injury or a medical condition that requires urgent attention, this responsibility typically falls on their immediate family. Many who take on this responsibility are ill-prepared for the emotional and physical challenges this role […]

WRITTEN BY: Dr. Roseanne E. Scammahorn, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator, OSU Extension Darke County

REVIEWED BY: Lorrissa Dunfee, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator, OSU Extension Belmont County

REFERENCES:

  • Bradley-Bursack, C. (2021 July 3). How to be a true friend to a family caregiver. Aging Care. Retrieved from https://www.agingcare.com/articles/be-a-true-friend-to-a-family-caregiver-167934.htm
  • Cleveland Clinic. (2019, January 13). Caregiver Burnout. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9225-caregiver-burnout
  • Mayo Clinic. (2020, August 29). Support groups: Make connections, get help. Retrieved from https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/support-groups/art-20044655
  • Scammahorn, R. (2020, April 24). Express your stress- Tips to tame your stress. Retrieved from https://livesmartohio.osu.edu/mind-and-body/scammahorn-5osu-edu/express-your-stress-tips-to-tame-your-stress/
  • Scammahorn, R. (2021, June 15). “No.” is a complete sentence. Retrieved from https://livesmartohio.osu.edu/family-and-relationships/scammahorn-5osu-edu/no-is-a-complete-sentence/

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

Yes, now you have that song stuck in your head, you’re welcome. As I hum the song, I can’t help but to smile and to reflect on things that make me happy. To give the definition of happiness may seem silly, since most of us understand what it is, but according to positive psychology researcher […]

WRITTEN BY: Misty Harmon, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator, Ohio State University Extension, Perry County, harmon.416@osu.edu

REVIEWED BY: Joseph Maiorano, PhD, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator, Ohio State University Extension, Harrison County, maiorano.2@osu.edu

PHOTO CREDITS:

  • https://pixabay.com/photos/family-sea-vacation-beach-summer-2432568/
  • https://pixabay.com/photos/african-african-american-afro-3797905/

SOURCES:

  • Greater Good Magazine. Happiness Defined: What is Happiness? Found on 4/10/19 at https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/happiness/definition
  • Greater Good Magazine. Happiness Defined: Why Practice It? Retrieved on 4/10/19 from https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/happiness/definition#why-practice-happiness
  • Harmon, M. (2019). How to "buy" happiness and better health. Found at https://livesmartohio.osu.edu/money/harmon-416osu-edu/how-to-buy-happiness-and-better-health/
  • Harvard Men's Health Watch. (2017). The pursuit of happiness. Retrieved on 4/10/19 from: https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/the-pursuit-of-happiness
  • Ho, L. (2019). How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy https://www.lifehack.org/610387/why-its-impossible-to-be-consistently-happy
  • Kloppers, M. 10 Things To Stop Caring About If You Want To Be Happier. Found on 4/10/19 at https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/ten-things-stop-caring-about-you-want-happier.html
  • Locke, R. (2018). 10 Scientifically Proven Ways To Stay Happy All The Time. Retrieved from https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-scientifically-proven-ways-stay-happy-all-the-time.html
  • National Alliance for Mental Illness (NAMI). Mental Health Conditions. Retrieved on 4/10/19 from: https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions
  • Suttie, J. (2019). How Understanding Evolution Can Help Us to Be Happy. Greater Good Magazine. Found at https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_understanding_evolution_can_help_us_to_be_happy

Love Thine Own Self

Many times when we talk about relationships we focus on those relationships we have with other people.  I think it is important to develop and maintain healthy relationships with friends, family, co-workers, etc.   I also believe having a healthy, positive, and loving relationship with yourself is crucial.  The type of relationship you have with yourself […]

WRITTEN BY: Lorissa Dunfee, Ohio State University Extension, Family and Consumer Sciences, Belmont County

REVIEWED BY: Shannon Carter, Ohio State University Extension, Family and Consumer Sciences, Fairfield County

SOURCES:

  • "Building Trust." California State University, Stanislaus. 2014.
  • Stephen, Asha, "Creating Healthy Relationships." Be Well Blog, University of Oregon. 2017.

How to “buy” happiness and better health

My husband and I took my 15 year old daughter to see Hamilton a couple nights ago. Her birthday was January 29th, the same day that Hamilton opened in Columbus. She told me last summer that she would like to go to the show for her birthday. I informed her that I would try to […]

WRITTEN BY: Misty Harmon, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator, Ohio State University Extension, Perry County, harmon.417@osu.edu

REVIEWED BY: Shannon Carter, Family and Consumer Sciences Educator, Ohio State University Extension, Fairfield County

PHOTO CREDITS:

  • https://pixabay.com/en/african-african-american-american-3741972/
  • https://pixabay.com/en/couple-happy-old-grandfather-858694/

SOURCES:

  • Consumer Federation of America, (2018). 54 Ways to Save Money, America Saves. Retrieved from: https://americasaves.org/for-savers/make-a-plan-how-to-save-money/54-ways-to-save-money
  • Newman, K. (2016). Six Ways to Get More Happiness for Your Money. Greater Good Magazine. Found here: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_ways_to_get_more_happiness_for_your_money
  • Santi, J. (2015). Nine Tips to Make Your Giving Feel Good. Greater Good Magazine. Retrieved from: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/nine_tips_to_make_your_giving_feel_good
  • Wilblin, R. (2016). Everything you need to know about whether money makes you happy. 80,000 hours. Retrieved from: https://80000hours.org/articles/money-and-happiness/
  • University of Minnesota, (2016). How Can You Improve Your Relationship with Money? Taking Charge of Your Health and Wellbeing. Found here: https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/how-can-you-improve-your-relationship-money

REFERENCES:

  • Bea, S. (2016). Wanna Give? This Is Your Brain on a ‘Helper’s High’. Cleveland Clinic. Found here: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/why-giving-is-good-for-your-health/

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