Over the past many months there have been an array of tragedies from devastating wild fires to numerous acts of violence all across the world. Each time I watched coverage of the event, I was struck by the kindness, unity, and the strength everyone showed to others. The strength of relationships, many with strangers, is no coincidence. It is often in times of extreme stress and tragedy that relationships emerge and can become even stronger. When something tragic happens, we crave social connection. It is our human nature.
Whether it is family, friends, or strangers, major events tend to bring people together. Research shows that acute stress such as a natural disaster or tragic event leads to bonding. This bonding over overcoming a certain situation or event, like serving in a war or living through a tragic hurricane, creates strong relationships and unity. This helps create a certain social solidarity that has been present many times through history. These relationships and bonding can be beneficial for the sharing of feelings, thoughts, and experience that may help in moving forward.
Why are these relationships so important during times of tragedy? It has been found that social support from friends and family relationships are instrumental in building resilience after a disaster. The community such as workplaces, churches, and other community organizations also play a part in resilience. Also the pride people take in the community where the disaster took place will have a great impact on the resilience of those involved in the disaster.
“Acute stress may help remind us of a fundamental truth: our common humanity. Understanding our shared vulnerability — life makes no promises — may be frightening, but it can inspire kindness, connection, and desire to stand together and support each other. Acute stress, as unpleasant as it may be, may also be an opportunity to experience the most beautiful aspects of life: social connection and love.” (Emma Seppala)
