When Grandma Comes to Stay

Today it is more common for households to have several generations living under one roof, also known as multigenerational households. In the last few years the number of these households has greatly increased. In 2014 a record number 60.6 million people lived in multigenerational households. Why would someone choose to be in a multigenerational household? The benefits might outweigh the costs.

There are several challenges to living in this type of household. I remember living with my parents the year after I graduated from college-that was enough motivation for me to move out and go to grad school. Personality conflicts, arguments over household responsibilities, financial responsibilities, there are a lot of stress factors when entering into this type of household.

However there are also great benefits to multigenerational households. There is an increase in emotional bonding and closeness across the generations. Grandparents can be important role models in socialization for grandchildren, spending time with grandchildren can improve the sense of purpose for grandparents and grandparents can take on some of the care of children such as homework, meals, and transportation. So whether you enter into a multigenerational household or not, there are some tips that can make the transition to this type of household easier.

Set family meetings to share concerns, thoughts, and feelings. This is also a good time to bring up any big decisions so that everyone in the household can be a part of the decision-making process.

Establish financial responsibilities so everyone knows who is responsible for paying which bills and when payments are due. It is also important to set a budget for the family!

Respect each other’s privacy, boundaries, and personal space. Remember that everyone needs private time and family time as well as time with others outside the family.

Establish routines, rituals, and traditions that keep the family together. Doing activities like family game night or cooking and baking together can help to keep the bonds strong between all the generations.

Be flexible! Moving into a multigenerational household will take a lot of transition time for all involved. Just recognize that from all the stress that may occur, there are some impactful benefits as well.